Erica, sounds like he needs to control the …

Comment posted Why do we argue over the best way to load the dishwasher? by Laura.

Erica, sounds like he needs to control the loading!!!
What is preventing you from letting him take over this job?
I had a similar issue with hubby who kept leaning over my shoulder when I was cooking and made comments like “how about more garlic [or almost any spice]” and “why don’t you …[cook it this way] or “here, let me HELP you” [meaning "take over because I know best"].
For a while we designated Sunday as his day to cook, and when the kids were teens they took their own day for making dinner too since both hubby and I were working full time.  Then, when the kids went off to college, I handed him the apron, knives, spice rack and wooden spoon – - totally over to him – - basically saying “It’s all yours, dear”.
Now he does all our dinners (we each do our own breakfast and lunch).  He is a good cook (sometimes a bit repetitive, but healthy and tasty), and I can relax and just praise him for these meals. Additionally, all my friends are REALLY  jealous.  Sometimes I miss the role of cook but would definitely not raise this issue again given his need for territoriality/control and my being able to use that time for other pleasant endeavors.  Try it, give it time and see how things go….

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